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Lessons From Dating: Some Endings Can Be Pleasant
So my recent dating experience has come to an end. Would not say that I am completely surprised, but nevertheless I am happy to have some closure on it. A few days ago I wrote and published a piece about a recent date I went on with a charming woman. It was the third date in our time together.
Last night I received a text from her informing me that she just realized that she is not ready for dating at this time in her life, it’s all too new. It’s been roughly ten years since she has dated anyone. She separated from her ex-husband nine months ago, and the divorce was finalized back in October of this year.
When I read the message this morning I felt a sense of relief. It’s the not knowing that can make dating so tough. At the end of our recent date, she rejected my attempt to kiss her because she wanted to take things slowly.
When I replied to the message I thanked her for her honesty, and acknowledged the amount of effort involved with dating. It wasn’t too long ago I found myself questioning whether or not I was ready to date.
About a year ago I went through a tough breakup. It was the first truly serious relationship I’ve had since going through my own divorce in 2011. We lived together and I was emotionally all over the place as the relationship was unraveling.
