Why Constantly Seeking External Validation is Problematic
Seeking external validation is something I’m sure a lot of us struggle with. It feels good to receive compliments for the work we do. We want to make sure that we’re doing a good job and exceeding the expectations of others. Where I struggle though, is understanding to what end.
I feel like there is always a sense of more. The more you achieve the more you want. And what’s the result, just more pie. More pie is just a substitute for more love, more money, more of anything that we feel like we don’t have enough of. It’s a never-ending game.
As I navigate working from home and not having the proverbial water cooler conversation with colleagues, it’s hard to not feel like I’m not doing enough. I feel like if people can’t see me working, they might feel like I’m not doing enough.
In my role, I am responsible for maintaining the office building my employer relocated to back in July. Even though we’re all working from home there are a number of items to keep up with as an owner and operator of a building.
A few weeks ago I felt like I was being put on trial to explain why I was falling behind on my responsibilities related to the building. The questions I was getting seemed…
